Let It Go

The Rant: Let It GO

Yesterday, I was thinking about life and decisions. Maybe, mostly, because I have been listening to "Let it Go" from Frozen, on repeat. Probably more than any little girl in America. And it occurred to me that a lot of our decisions are made on assumptions, best guesses, and "educated guesses". Elsa hurt Anna so badly by assuming that she would hurt Elsa with her powers. We were encouraged to make these kind of presumptions in school to help us take tests and make important decisions. It is a very important skill, you take past experience and apply it to your current situation and VOILA! A decision! A supposition. A choice. A judgement. Wow, that was a quick decline.

I was talking with Mr. McKenna, the younger, the other day about someone. I said that I didn't like someone that we knew a long time ago. He asked "How do you know? You aren't the same person you were then and I am guessing neither are they."
And it dawned on me how many experiences, people, places, things, ideas and thoughts we just dismiss because of our assumptions. 

How much love, support, money, food or fun are you missing out on because of fear? How many fun nights, new experiences, and lifelong friendships are you missing out on because you are afraid of the idea you have in your head of how that person will react to you or how something will taste or how awkward that interaction might be.

I have been a victim of this presupposition before as I'm sure I have been the deliverer of such judgement. I have had people say, "I wasn't sure I wanted to be your friend because I thought you might judge me."  Not only did they miss out on a great friend, but so did I. Someone was not only afraid of my judgement, but also at the same time, made an assumption, a judgement against me. WHAT ARE YOU MISSING BECAUSE OF FEAR OF JUDGEMENT?

I feel like a lot of people miss out on relationships because they are afraid of what the other person thinks. I THINK it is high time we moved away from such ridiculousness and started making judgement calls on people based on their actions. What we should be concerned with is the way that people conduct themselves, the way they treat others. You are never going to agree with everything someone thinks. What would make you unique if you did?

 I am never going to accept and agree with everything that you think. Just like you are never going to accept and agree with everything I think. Why should we miss out on each other? You may want me to think that communism is the way to go and the best way to structure my life, but guess what, I think that Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life. And you are no closer to accepting that, than I am to accepting communism. THAT'S OKAY.  Let's celebrate our difference, together.

This particular matter is one of my biggest wounds. I have someone that I daily hold in my heart that will not speak to me because of what they mistakenly think I believe. No, they never asked. They assumed. They thought the worst of me and dismissed me, because they thought that is what I would do to them.

Here it is. The call to action! Reach out to the person you think you won't get along with. Make a friend with someone different from you. Try a cumquat. Let go of your fear.

Spring Refresh

When William hears "tax refund" he thinks pay back debt, save money, and be responsible. I think REDECORATE!!! Here are some shots of the latest refresh of our living room.

I added some shelves in place of the picture we had over the sofa to display some of our favorite things. All gifts from people we love.

 I sewed some pillow covers to go over some ugly and outdated pillows. I am still looking for a good print fabric to make another pillow, but have yet to find one that has a good combinations of the colors I am looking for. I also added a picture of the Queen City to the big picture wall that leads up to William's office so he can remember where we are headed. :-)

 These are pictures that we used at the wedding, wedding pictures of our grandparents and parents. Then I took one of my favorites from our wedding and put it in the middle over our monogram. There are some other little trinkets on the mantle and I added navy curtains to compliment my color scheme. And there's Pickles looking majestic.

 Close up. Left to right. Grandma and Grandpa McKenna, below, Mr and Mrs. McKenna, Grandma and Grandpa Everard. Right side, Grandma and Grandpa Human, Mr. and Mrs. Human, and Grandma and Papa Reed. I left the picture crooked, just for Johnny.

 Once again our majestic pup, and the dirty fireplace. 

I will posting some more things soon, like pictures from Hawaii, Rome and hopefully some big news coming soon.